I feel that he puts her feelings way higher on his list of priorities than he should. He will say he is going to speak to her only via email, then go back to texting and calling. She is verbally abusive and has mental-health issues on top of the alcoholism. I am also uncomfortable with some of the exchanges between my boyfriend and his ex. To top things off, his mother has a drinking issue, and child protective services has gotten involved, including an interview with me and my child.Īlthough the son has never exhibited these behaviors toward my daughter, I don’t want to jeopardize my own parenting time because I have this angry little fellow in my home sometimes. In addition to his changed behavior toward me, he has been having issues at pre-K: biting, punching, and choking other children. But I haven’t been able to handle him, so I scaled back on caring for him without his father present. I used to pick both kids up from school so they could play before dinnertime, and take them to school in the morning since they enjoyed each other’s company. Now he tells me he doesn’t have to listen to me, or that I’m mean, and he even told me to get out of his room when I tried to help him after he had an accident. We used to enjoy our time together-he’d snuggle with me and tell me he loved me. In the past six months, his son has changed how he treats me. He has 50/50 custody of his son and I have my daughter the majority of the time. We have lived together for a year in my home. I am 38 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, during which time he has gone through a divorce and begun co-parenting with his ex.

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My Boyfriend's Teen Son by Marco May